THE SECRET

Coaching is a field that is its infancy in some respects, so don't feel badly if you are not sure about the distinction between the two. I will admit that I am a product of good therapy from many years ago. That means that I had emotional blocks that I had to face, and inner healing that needed to take place; however, I, like many others, have discovered that when you begin to cycle back through therapy over and over again, and nothing is changing, therapy may no longer be what you need.

If you are not getting the results you want in your life and in your relationship, and you have developed an essentially healthy foundation, perhaps it is time to consider hiring a coach to help you SHIFT. You will learn to leverage new awareness and knowledge, create your vision of who you want to be in life and relationship, and take action!

My work with clients is a collaborative one. Supporting clients in creating lasting and positive changes is my passion. I coach clients in a method I developed called to Shift2Relate.™ The Shift that it takes to relate in a different way lies within each of us. I serve as a mirror for you to see what is blocking your ability to shift, reflecting your inherent wisdom and allowing you to awaken, be conscious and empower your potential in life and relationship.

Regardless of your sexual orientation or gender identity, you desire to engage in personal and/or intimate relationships that are meaningful and authentic with other human beings, including yourself.

No matter how "successful" you are in terms of the material realm, experiencing authentic connections with others in relationship is the essence of being human. Unfortunately, if you are like many people, you probably have not received good instructions on how to be successful in the area of dynamic, empowering relationships.

Can you imagine a person simply deciding she wants to be a brain surgeon without any education? Makes you chuckle, huh? All I can say is "Whoa! Don't come near me!" in that situation. You should feel the same way about yourself or others who are not committed to learning new life and relationship skills. Buyer...beware! You get what you pay for. Refuse to invest in yourself, and you will reap what you sow.

Psychotherapy involves diagnosing and treating emotional problems (addictions, depression, anxiety etc.). The emphasis is inner healing and recovery. Coaching assumes that you possess an essentially healthy foundation, have a strong desire to accomplish your life and relationship goals, are mobilized for action, and are prepared to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to SHIFT & create WHATEVER YOU DESIRE. If you are in need of psychotherapy or counseling, I will refer you to a licensed clinician. If you are currently seeing a psychotherapist or counselor, please let me know. Since they are different, the two can be utilized simultaneously for certain situations. I often have clinicians refer their patients to me for coaching.

If you are still wondering if coaching is right for you, take the following self-test entitled "Do I Need Therapy?" offered by Psychology Today to determine if you can eliminate that. Go to the site here to take the quiz and find out!

If you are a gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender person seeking to create a Shift in your life and/or relationship, click here for the menu of coaching services and programs, selecting the type that best suits your interests. Or, contact GLBT Coach Dotti Berry at dotti@GLBTcoach.com

Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgender persons have few really good role models for life and/or relationship. Far too many have given away their power to others. It is through reclaiming your power, and re-framing how you see yourself, that creates a shift in your life and/or relationship. It is time for you to create your own path, regardless of how friends, family, religious institutions, and/or society view you. When you do this, you will serve as a role model for others in the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community, inspiring them to live authentic lives. Not only will you transform yourself, you will, one by one, help change society and the world!

My goal is to coach you in creating personal structures that prevent destructive debate and foster constructive dialogues so that you shift relationships, not the beliefs of others. Creating this foundation allows you to reflect on your current situation and shape what happens next.

Your story, as well as that of others, offers the possibility of understanding one another at the deepest core. Why? You can't hate someone whose story you know. It changes EVERYTHING! It offers AUTHENTIC CONNECTION! It OPENS YOUR HEART!

I am passionate about my life path (this isn't work to me!). My tag line is born to coach. It embodies the integration of the mind, body and spirit. I use my imagination in seeking knowledge and insight into who I am as well as who others are. I coach people in understanding that to evolve from the inside/out takes courage, a word that literally means "of the heart." Therefore, the energy we direct every single day moves through our heart, transforming and empowering not only ourselves, but also society as a whole. This gives each of us the opportunity to SHIFT from caterpillars of possibility into butterflies in flight.

You must be willing to evaluate your most treasured values, beliefs and attitudes about people, love, relationships, and life. Though you may seek coaching for one particular situation, all aspects of life are integrated in various ways. My experience is that your mindset, with which you have been currently living life, and not getting the empowering results you want, has to SHIFT! When this shift happens, you will discover that a new space opens up that allows others to shift and they will seem to magically "change!" The reality is that YOU have changed and been transformed through your own SHIFT of acquiring a new lens for your camera eyes. If you have been through therapy and feel you have a healthy foundation, but still feel "stuck" and are not getting the results you want in your life, coaching can help you evolve to a new level of awareness and consciousness. Relationships are EVERYWHERE, and their opportunity to create havoc occurs constantly, unless you have developed specific tools to be successful. What you will learn and implement will be effective, whether in a personal or corporate situation.